Update:
Patience, Love, Understanding. These 3 words saved my marriage and have brought me back on track with what I've always wanted... The person that I want to grow old with. Last night after another "Date Night" Followed by a visit with some geat friends, my wife finally came around and realized that I'm not the same person that made her cry years ago. I'm not the same person that was selfish.
Anyone reading this that may possibly be having the same problems that I've had.. Please heed to those 3 words. Stop pointing fingers and take a good look at yourself instead! If you look at yourself through your spouse or girlfriends eyes and see what she sees in you, you may stop and realize what may have created the problems all along. This may seem like a short "Heal All Solution" in this posting, but it took a very long time for me to come to realize what was going wrong in my relationship. I wish anyone that may read this the best of luck and I hope that you'll be able to iron things out.
What I have I will never take for granted. I'm always thankfull and will be greatfull for that Classy lady that stuck with me even when times were far from great! She was able to show me true love even when I was too blind to see it. I will never forget this or step back into that groove that once troubled me.

Bryan