Thank you for the advice I understand what you are saying. I was brought up to look at imperfections as a way to make your self stronger. where he alway had them pointed out as a weakness. sense i wrote the first time we have st and talked about some of our problems he told me that he doesn't feel like a man when it comes to somethings and he dosen't want to look like a failure to me so he tries to keep things from me. I told him that when i married him i married for better and for worse and if there is a problem and he need help he should not be afraid to tell me about it. so now he takes a while but he tells me what is going on and we are tring to work through it together. the only problem i have is when i hear him say he is a loser and a bad husband and father. because i know he is not and he would do anything to protect ma and the girls. but when you have parents telling you that everyday of your life i guess you begain to believe it. Any way thank you for the advice I think i will talk to him about reading it and see if it will help him too.

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Mistykess