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Originally Posted by alex1
I don't understand what a score higher than average or below means in mutual commitment, if one of the people in the relationship doesn't have commitment towards the other person. It's confusing a little.
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Imagine a relationship where one of the partners demonstrates total openness in his/her communication and actions, and it rubs off the other so he/she slowly grows and develops confidence in sharing and receiving constructive criticism?
Most of us are followers in social- and relationship-settings. We'll close up and withdraw in one environment and open up and grow in another. It all depends on the quality of soil, fertilization, and other nourishment or its lack of.
If our partner demonstrates the power of total love and acceptance, of allowing for vulnerability and for giving control away (that is giving false control away in return for true sense of wholesomeness) - it will eventually rub off on us and cause us to open up to further learning and escalated development.
Still, we weigh the "weak link" at 60% and the energy that is radiated into the relationship from the stronger party at 40% only. It still happens often enough that the outcome is stronger than average.
Please let me know of this further explanation is required.