Can't free will play a role in relationship also? I have had a very good friendship with someone for more than 20 years and for several years it was a very passionate romance. Yet our scores are 0 for each other across the board, yet he is one of the most important people in my life. Similar to the current romantic relationship I have been in for 6 months. We scored 0 on love and friendship, 70 on sex and 60 on partnershp. I'm a 2 to him in intimacy and he's a 3 to me on passion, and we rated a 1 on synergy, yet I feel a great deal of passion and love for him and he has been very committed to opening up intimately. We are both in our 40s. Could it be a decision, a choice, to be committed and loving and passionate and partners can overcome the numbers?