I realized something today that I wanted to share, if the passion isn't mutual I don't feel it. I don't know if it feels the same for everybody but for me, even if the other person isn't naturally attracted to me but in mutual passion there is something higher than average then I feel the attraction. I think it's a very important ingredient in personal relationships. It's what makes some relationships feel magical, special. Intimacy may be very much connected to that feeling of magic but I can't realise now just how much or in what way they work together. I seem to value more relationships that have passion than those that don't and to some people it seems shallow somehow, they think it's shallow not to want to be with someone who isn't a bad person to be with but that I don't feel attracted to. I don't think it's shallow because it's not a rational reaction based on how beautiful or not that person is physically but it's all instinctual. Maybe that's what makes some people find others attractive or not and the rest is just rationalizing the instincts which never comes out quite right and so people don't understand. How many times have you heard something like "what does he\she see in her\him?, She\He is fat, ugly " and so on...
They may never understand because like I said, it's not rational and the reasons that they might offer are never really what does make them feel attracted to the other person. It's true there are also people that do not feel that kind of attraction and rationalize their feelings for many reasons, like for example, maybe the sexual part of their lives is not all that important to them. And that makes me think that maybe it's just some people that feel the way I do and some may wonder and may not understand what I'm talking about.

PS: Just by accident I realized it's been a year since I joined.

I second that!

Oh, and happy anniversary to us all since your invaluable participation has always been a true asset to all members of the community.

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Thank you and happy anniversay!

Hi Alex1,

Couldn't agree more passion makes some relationships more magical, more... alive and powerful, and if you also have real intimacy, it only adds to the fire. Having only recently come to know what true passion feels like, I must say I value it too. And even if passion may make me feel more vulnerable or out of control, I still think it's all very much worth while and makes life taste more real.

Love,

Dyane

Ps. Happy anniversary Alex!

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Thanks Dyane.

I completely agree! well said everyone