Help!! How to regain trust...

sylma756 · #1 (**permalink**) October 31st, 2008, 12:09 AM

Hi everyone my name is Marree.I am quite young and have recently strated a new relationship. Me and my partner have now been going out for 7 months but I am having trouble trusting him. Before we strated going out my partner told me of his past and how he used to mess around with woman. He told me he would change as i am his frist love. Before entering the relationship i thought about the whole scenario but then threw myself into the relationship. Since then he has lied to me several times and also has been txt messaging other girls. Only a few weeks ago i found him chatting to other girls on the internet and giving out his mobile number. The trust issue is affecting our relationship in a negative way.I dont know what to do, How to trust him. is there anyone out there who can help me or who is goin through the same thing as i am??

alex1 · #2 (**permalink**) October 31st, 2008, 05:53 AM

Why should you want to trust him? He is not trustworthy...he's giving his phone number to other girls which means he is already looking for someone else or he doesn't believe in having just one partner or he has a different idea of being faithful than you do. There could be a large number of reasons why this could be happening, but since you say you're quite young I would suggest finding yourself a new partner.

ClayGal · #3 (**permalink**) November 15th, 2008, 07:07 PM

Dear Sylma756, So sorry to see that you are in this bind. You are young and hopeful and hope that you should disbelief what is obvious. This man may tell you one thing, move you in, and you may enjoy wonderful sex, but in his mind, he is not committed to you for the long run. He's obviously looking for a new conquest. A truth in life is that no one is special. A man who treats other women poorly will treat you poorly. Character will tell. You can see who he is. If you are just looking for a disposable relationship, this is how it feels and looks. A real man will treat you with respect. He won't lie to you about other women. He won't cheat on you. If you want to have these problems in a marital relationship, by all means keep dating men like this one. But if you don't want to have problems like this, find a man who values his relationships and integrity. There are truly wonderful loving men in the world. I'll bet you already know several. Let this man go play his games with someone else. I know if you make it a priority you will find someone you can trust. You'll never regret it.

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