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quote:We do care about each other and are always there for each other in time of real need. We always seem to make it work when it comes to it...
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quote:...something is missing... I am not sexually attracted to him like I once was and we argue alot.
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quote ivorce is his favorite word and I feel that I'm losing myself.
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Dear Tigress, whether or not you are going to make this marriage last is entirely up to you; but if you decide to do so - it better be good
It seems that you two share a most vital quality - compassion and caring toward each other. You turn to become best friends at time of need. However, your friendship doesn't hold water through the crunching affect that is caused by sharing closed quarters. You are friends when each can VOLUNTEER his or her friendship. You are rivals when you feel FORCED to act as such.
I sense that you feel suffocated in a relationship of expectations from each other that actually were never communicated or agreed upon; a relationship where you feel that personal space was sacrificed for long-forgotten assets, or assets that have deteriorated - such as good sex. There are undercurrents of anger and frustration at each other for neglecting to give or receive the best that each of you has to offer.
Your free-spirited friendship is sound and invaluable. However, your forced, dusty, and un-communicated marriage agreement is outdated.
Go out for a romantic dinner, cocktail or a cup of coffee at least once a week; curve a set day and time on your calendar in stone. In this setting start to share with each other how to make your unique friendship return to your daily routine through the front door.
Let us know how it works out for you. I'm certain that you can make it happened!